By Kerry Cordy
The character trait of peace involves understanding others opinions and beliefs, resolving conflict quickly and fairly, and being content within your own life.
Penguins: Do 3 requirements including 1 & 2 starred.
Otters: Do 4 requirements including the 3 starred.
Dolphins: Do 5 requirements including the 3 starred.
Butterflies: Do 6 requirements including the 3 starred.
Eagles: Do 7 requirements including the 3 starred.
Owls: Do 9 requirements including the 3 starred.
_____ 1.* Everyone gets into arguments sometimes, but a peaceful person should not lose their temper and should help to resolve the argument as quickly and fairly as possible. Read through the following steps to resolving conflict with a parent or other adult.
1. Identify the problem. Look at it objectively. What did YOU do to contribute to the conflict?
2. Team up to find a solution - compromise. Can you find a new way to do things? Can you share?
3. Work on actively listening, not passively hearing. This means that you actually think about what the other person is saying and not just let it pass through your ears! Conflicts escalate when you talk more than listen, and only stop talking long enough to rearm.
4. Develop forgiveness: Donât say "I'm going to bury the hatchet." But then add: "But I'm going to mark exactly where I bury it, just in case I need to dig it up for the next fight." Forgiveness looks forward, vengeance looks backward.
Role play some examples of how these steps might be used in your life. The next time you get into an argument with a sibling, friend, or parent, try putting these steps into practice.
_____ 2.* Spend one hour alone with nature (15 minutes for Penguins, 30 minutes for Otters and Dolphins). Find a quiet place in a park, on the beach, in a forest, ore even your backyard, and simply be alone with your thoughts and with God. Sitting in peaceful silence can sometimes be very hard in our loud and chaotic culture. Learn to take time out each day to appreciate the beauty around you. You may write, draw, sing, pray, or simply sit. Think about the blessings in your life and concentrate on calming your mind and finding ways to be content with your life.
_____ 3.* Religion can cause some of the biggest arguments in the world. Countless wars have been fought over religious beliefs, yet most religions actually have a lot in common. Nearly every religion around the world has a version of the golden rule they expect their followers to live by.
Choose three major religions that are different than your own and find out what beliefs you have in common. Understanding and respecting others opinions and beliefs, even if you disagree with them, is an important part of living a peaceful life.
BahÃ¡'Ã Faith: "Ascribe not to any soul that which thou wouldst not have ascribed to thee, and say not that which thou doest not." "Blessed is he who preferreth his brother before himself."
Baha'u'llah "And if thine eyes be turned towards justice, choose thou for thy neighbour that which thou choosest for thyself." Epistle to the Son of the Wolf
Brahmanism: "This is the sum of Dharma [duty]: Do naught unto others which would cause you pain if done to you". Mahabharata, 5:1517 "
Buddhism: "...a state that is not pleasing or delightful to me, how could I inflict that upon another?" Samyutta NIkaya v. 353
Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful." Udana-Varga 5:18
Christianity: "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets." Matthew 7:12, King James Version.
"And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise." Luke 6:31, King James Version.
Confucianism: "Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you" Analects 15:23
"Tse-kung asked, 'Is there one word that can serve as a principle of conduct for life?' Confucius replied, 'It is the word 'shu' -- reciprocity. Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.'" Doctrine of the Mean 13.3 "Try your best to treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself, and you will find that this is the shortest way to benevolence." Mencius VII.A.4
Hinduism: This is the sum of duty: do not do to others what would cause pain if done to you. Mahabharata 5:1517
Islam: "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself." Number 13 of Imam "Al-Nawawi's Forty Hadiths." 5
Judaism: "...thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.", Leviticus 19:18
"What is hateful to you, do not to your fellow man. This is the law: all the rest is commentary." Talmud, Shabbat 31a.
"And what you hate, do not do to any one." Tobit 4:15 6
Native American Spirituality: "Respect for all life is the foundation." The Great Law of Peace.
"All things are our relatives; what we do to everything, we do to ourselves. All is really One." Black Elk
"Do not wrong or hate your neighbor. For it is not he who you wrong, but yourself." Pima proverb.
Shinto: "The heart of the person before you is a mirror. See there your own form" "Be charitable to all beings, love is the representative of God." Ko-ji-ki Hachiman Kasuga
Sikhism: Compassion-mercy and religion are the support of the entire world". Japji Sahib
"Don't create enmity with anyone as God is within everyone." Guru Arjan Devji 259
"No one is my enemy, none a stranger and everyone is my friend." Guru Arjan Dev : AG 1299
Sufism: The basis of Sufism is consideration of the hearts and feelings of others. If you haven't the will to gladden someone's heart, then at least beware lest you hurt someone's heart, for on our path, no sin exists but this." Dr. Javad Nurbakhsh, Master of the Nimatullahi Sufi Order.
Taoism: "Regard your neighbor's gain as your own gain, and your neighbor's loss as your own loss." T'ai Shang Kan Ying P'ien. "The sage has no interest of his own, but takes the interests of the people as his own. He is kind to the kind; he is also kind to the unkind: for Virtue is kind. He is faithful to the faithful; he is also faithful to the unfaithful: for Virtue is faithful." Tao Teh Ching, Chapter 49
Zoroastrianism: "That nature alone is good which refrains from doing unto another whatsoever is not good for itself". Dadistan-i-dinik 94:5 "Whatever is disagreeable to yourself do not do unto others." Shayast-na-Shayast 13:29
_____ 4. Write a poem or essay about peace and what it means to you.
_____ 5. Create a piece of artwork that expresses your view of peace.
_____ 6. Read a book about peace.
_____ 7. What does your book of faith say about peace? Memorize at least 1 verse about peace if you are a Penguin, 3 verses if you are an Otter or Dolphin, and 5 if you are a Butterfly or above.
_____ 8. Visit another place of worship and have lunch with someone of their religion. Find out what you have in common.
_____ 9. Become a Place For Peace. Visit the website of the World Peace Society and go their free poster page http://worldpeace.org.au/posters2.asp Print out a poster and place it somewhere it can be seen by others. Then take a picture and email it to them (with your parent's permission) to add it to their âPlaces of Peaceâ around the world.
_____ 10. Learn about three famous peacemakers such as Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr., Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela, or Yitzhak Rabin. What did they do that made them famous for peace? What were their beliefs? What can you learn from them?
_____ 11. What is the Nobel Peace Prize? What is its history? Who are some of the people who have won the award and for what?
_____ 12. Read the poem THE CRAYON BOX THAT TALKED By Shane DeRolf. What does this say about peace? How might you apply it to your life? Discuss the poem with a parent or adult.
_____ 13.Â Write the word PEACEFULNESS on a piece of paper and then think of one peaceful act that you could do that starts with each letter in the word. For example for P you could put âpromote understanding between peopleâ and for E âencourage friendshipsâ.
_____ 14.Â Using the Victorian Language of flowers make a bouquet that symbolizes what peace means to you.Â You can find the meanings assigned to the flowers at various websites or in books and you may cut pictures from magazines or web pages to create a collage âbouquetâ.Â Make sure you include the name and meaning of each flower that you choose.Â You may make a scrapbook page using pictures of flowers or make a bouquet using real or artificial flowers. J
_____ 15. Find and memorize at least 1 (Penguins), 3 (Otters and Dolphins), 5 (Butterflies and above) famous quotations about peace.
_____ 16.Â Learn a song about peace.
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